Monday, August 7, 2017

Continuous Seduction

“If a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged, and lies with her, he must pay a dowry for her to be his wife.”   Exodus 22:16

Unmarried men will often do anything to attract women, specifically to get sex.  All too commonly marriage is not in the picture.  Whether they are conscious of it or not, men are internally driven to be fruitful and multiply, so they eagerly seek out help to learn the art of seduction.  Don't believe me?  Just search "seduce women" on Amazon and you will be greeted with a long list of top selling books.  This one popped up first for me: "Seduce Her With Text: The Gentleman's Guide To Texting Her All The Way To The Bedroom."

Make no mistake, seduction solely for the purpose of getting sex is unloving.  It is explicitly wrong outside of marriage.  But don't automatically conclude the art of seduction does not have its rightful place.

It's critically important that an unmarried man sexually impress the woman who could potentially become his wife.  It's critical that he be able to turn her on.  Turning her on should be a huge part of his driving ambition, even as the higher part is to convince her to marry him with the smile of God.  Recognize, that even though not yet married, it is perfectly right and expected that both the man and the woman be chomping at the bit to have sex.  Sexual desire is a good thing (Before we were married, my wife and I used to have the car windows completely fogged up in the church parking lot! Lol).  The wedding day should mark the beginning of a long journey learning how to make mutually explosive love.  To be clear, the honey moon does not represent the summum bonum for sex.  It is simply Day One in the life long school of romance.  Nevertheless, at the time of marriage the groom should already be highly skilled in the art of seduction.

Mastery of seduction — the art of getting a woman to highly desire sex from you — should be a man's continuous life ambition.  Most emphatically it's not an ambition to be shelved after the wedding bells have been rung.  A husband should continuously be improving his skill at seducing his wife, even more as the years go by.  Seduction should be considered a major part of Christ's command for husbands to love their wives.  Turning her on and fulfilling her sexual needs should be seen as a large part of the privilege of being her husband, til death do you part.  Toward that end, husbands should be continuously active performing searches on Amazon, not just single men.