Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Christian Women Love Alpha-Males

Spend time in community with other Christians and you will eventually encounter the phenomenon of a Christian woman in relationship with a professed non-Christian man, or perhaps a minimal professor of the Faith at most. Why does this happen?  Shouldn’t a true Christian woman only be attracted to a “godly man?”  To answer this question we must look at how we were formed by our Creator; how we were made to tick as male and female.
Genesis 3:16 should become as familiar to you as John 3:16. Both verses are foundational to our being. A correct understanding of both is critical for life in the now, though you will probably never see someone on TV holding up a Genesis 3:16 sign at the Super Bowl.  This is the complete verse:
To the woman He said, “I will greatly multiply Your pain in childbirth, In pain you will bring forth children; Yet your desire will be for your husband, And he will rule over you.”
For the topic under discussion we will only focus on the last part of the verse: “your desire will be for your husband, And he will rule over you.”

It is important to understand that in this divinely recorded incident God is instituting the feminine – masculine bond.  What He is doing is transforming the nature of Eve such that she will be under increased physical constraint to desire masculinity in her husband, and her husband by implication will now be under constraint to behave in accordance with Eve’s new hyper-femininity.  He’d better be masculine.  Consequently, by natural generation all women share the same nature as Eve, and all men the same nature as Adam.  Male – Female created he them.
This is why Christian women are attracted to what are commonly labeled “Alpha-Males.”  An Alpha-Male by definition exudes masculine traits, usually revolving around strong leadership which answers directly to a woman’s feminine needs, needs such as a sense of security and direction. An Alpha-Male also possesses a confidence to dominate his woman in a loving sense, not pandering to her every whim.  Women want to be highly valued, vigorously romanced, and confidently pursued in a sexual way.  In these areas, Alpha-Males excel.
Alpha-Males tend to be found more outside the Church than within, due to the feminizing culture that pervades the Church of our day.  An emphasis on equality of the sexes has led to the repression and disregard of both the feminine and masculine.  Female and male distinctives are not taught.  As a result, men do not know how to respond to women, nor women to men due to lack of understanding.  For example, in a chapter of What Women Want When They Test Men: How to Decode Female Behavior, Pass a Woman’s Tests, and Attract Women Through Authenticity, author Bruce Bryans describes the radically different responses three men produced when tested by a woman.  Why did the three men respond so differently?  Bryans explains why: 

"The main difference lies in how these men think and respond to a strange and sometimes misunderstood aspect of a woman’s behavior: the subconscious need to test a man to determine his capability to lead and capacity to love her."

What Bryans describes as an innate womanly trait – the subconscious need to test a man – the Church would commonly label lack of submission.  A Christian man would tend to avoid such a woman rather than rise to her challenge and pass the test.  Christian men are overwhelmingly afraid of confident women, partly because man’s natural desire to rule is often ridiculed as tyranny, within the Church.  They are not taught to confidently and attractively rule.  Not that both feminine and masculine traits can be abusive when taken to extremes, but the modern pursuit of equality is attempting to abolish both male and female.  Christian women are being stranded and left single in the Church, bereft of romantic, masculine men.

Christian women rightly desire Alpha-Males.  The Church must expend every effort to bring them back from extinction.

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