In the movie Atonement, Robbie, alone at his typewriter, fantasizes about Cecilia the woman he loves, but whom toward he always acts reserved. Spontaneously, he types the words, "In my dreams I kiss your cunt, your sweet, wet cunt. In my thoughts I make love to you all day long." Later, he mistakenly puts the letter in an envelope and sends it to Cecilia. Realizing what he's done, he timidly approaches Cecilia, expecting to be rejected. Instead, what he gets is a woman highly turned on.
For many men their pent-up passion remains stuck in the realm of fantasy, directed at pornographic images on a display. Even if they marry, this passion remains pent-up or misallocated toward porn, instead of being unleashed and redirected toward the women they've pledged themselves to love. Like Robbie, they remain reserved toward the women they love fearing rejection, offering instead to open their door, wash their dishes...and periodically have sex. Yet a wife desirously wants to be the object of her man's pent-up passion. She wants to be passionately desired, spoken to, pursued, cherished, caressed, and pleasured. And with all her wants, her man should be consumed. Let this become the focus of his ambition; passionate romance his all-consuming fire. Let him read book after book after book toward this end, and become in essence a new man. This is how God provides an escape from the clutches of pornography.