When it comes to forming marriages, churches ought to be catalysts: a person or thing that precipitates an event.
Scratch that, churches ought to be hyper-catalysts.
John relates how the miracle-working Jesus first showed up—of all places—at a wedding, notoriously turning water into wine. Less notorious was his arrangement of the wedding in the first place. Jesus brought a specific woman to a specific man. Afterwards, he facilitated the party already in play. Notice he didn't make coffee.
John's story alludes back to the Beginning when our Matchmaker Lord arranged the first wedding. The Lord brought a specific woman to a specific man, and the solitary-aware Adam experienced a similar turning of water into wine. According to Eugene Peterson's Message, Adam first sees Eve and freaks:
“Finally! Bone of my bone,
flesh of my flesh!
Name her Woman
for she was made from Man.”
Somewhere churches lost the wonder.
Somewhere churches lost the excitement.
Somewhere churches lost the priority plan.
Churches lost sight of our Lord's hyper-passion for holy matrimony and its fruit—holy children. Marriage has been eclipsed by a passion for evangelism, despite the obvious reality that a person must first be born of flesh in order to later be born of the Spirit. As Paul said, “[T]he spiritual is not first, but the natural; then the spiritual.”
Churches need to get back in the Game. A specific man needs a specific woman before he needs a specific, well-paying job. It’s couples that generally achieve earthly success in God’s eye, not the individual as glorified in our day. Churches need to re-catch the vision of our Holy Matchmaker. They need to become catalysts for a holy marriage revolution and put the first things of our Lord first.
Is your church hyperactively promoting the formation of holy marriages?