If anything, the recent Ashley Madison hack should make us stop and realize, sexual lust in men is common. Much less common is the bridling of that lust, and instead turning sexual desire into its righteous course. I'm sure the hack simply reveals the tip of the iceberg.
The church is much to blame.
When the Lord said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”, he most certainly did not mean Adam needed a sex goddess. Eve was not formed to wait around for Adam in provocative lingerie. Nevertheless, a sexual outlet was part of the plan.
As Martin Luther pointed out, the command to be fruitful and multiply was more than just a lifeless command, it was the infusing of sexual desire. That desire has a legitimate outlet. It is not found in the mind-altering fantasy world of romance novels or in the virtual world of porn sites. It is found in the marriage bed of husband and wife and the making of disciples for Christ.
In TO THE KNIGHTS OF THE TEUTONIC ORDER: AN EXHORTATION That They Lay Aside False Chastity And Take Upon Them The True Chastity Of Wedlock, Martin Luther illustrated the rampant immorality of his day as a result of marriage not being actively promoted by the Church. In fact, celibacy was touted by church leaders as ideal, the way to be more useful to God. Sorta like common exhortations to singles in our churches today. The result, also like our day, was widespread immorality among the mostly celibate church leaders and society (Luther was a former monk). Women and men were shut up in the convents and monasteries, along with their passions.
The Reformation in large part was a setting the captives free. It was e-Harmony on steroids.
As men and women we are sexual by design, and we have been Divinely given a sexual mission to be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth. Toward this end, sexual desire is calculated to stir us on. It is an internal fire with a God-designed path to burn.
We are extinguishing the flame through pornography, romance novels, and sterilized marriage via birth control.
The Church needs another Sexual Reformation.